Adopt child-centred approach to maternity benefits

I refer to the letter “Benefits review a lifeline for single unwed mothers, who need more help” (July 31).

I, too, welcome the review of the benefits that single unwed mothers are eligible for as the Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) seeks to enhance the support for the most vulnerable in society, namely children.

Unlike adults, who have more control over their circumstances and choices, children cannot choose the type of family into which they are born.

The Government recognises the pre-political institution of marriage to support the right of every child to be raised by a father and a mother wherever possible. Marriage protects the needs of children and is a stabilising force in society.

In cases where one parent is missing, children may develop academic, social and emotional problems, such as difficulty in developing relationships and forming families in future. Some may develop depression and exhibit behavioural issues.

The review is thus guided by the continued promotion of parenthood within marriage, where both parents play complementary roles in raising a child in a stable family unit.

In single-parent families, to what extent are the fathers involved in the responsibility of caring for the child? The family is the first resort, the first line of support for anyone needing help.

A father should not be excluded from his responsibility in the issue of single parenting. A child’s welfare is top priority and does not stop at physical benefits.

A child longs most for the love, care and guidance of both parents. No amount of benefits can replace the father’s unique role, nor a mother’s great love.

Furthermore, no one is penalised or discriminated against by not being given benefits. Singapore is not a welfare state, but that of a community helping one another and progressing together.

Single unwed mothers can approach private, religious or other non-governmental organisations for help, since the help needed can be wide-ranging. When the larger community is involved, people bond together and build a caring society.

Governmental help should be the last resort. As adults, we should take responsibility for our choices, bearing in mind that children suffer the most when one parent is missing.

Marriage should be upheld and families should be strengthened for the sake of our children and the larger society.