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Kim Lim opens up about childhood abuse and how being sent to London at 12 was her dad’s way of protecting her

In the first of a three-part tell-all interview with Xiaxue, the 32-year-old beauty mogul also reveals how she has tried to erase the abuse from memory, but she still has cigarette burn scars to remind her about the trauma.

Even if you are not one of her 511K followers on Instagram, you would have read about billionaire heiress Kim Lim's rise from socialite to beauty empire mogul over the past three years. 

Kim, whose dad is billionaire Peter Lim, now runs KL Health, which includes aesthethic clinic Illumia Medical, hair treatment center Papilla Haircare and her skincare line Illumiaskin by Kim Lim. The group recently picked up a whopping seven awards at the Global Health Aesthetics Awards.

All seems dandy and good, with many envying her glitzy, and might we say, often dramatic public life.

But in a recent sit down with OG influencer Xiaxue, Kim shared a different side of her glamourous persona, saying how she remembers little about her childhood and that she… endured abuse as a child.

Say what?

“I was about six or seven,” she said as tears fell down her cheek when Xiaxue pried on when the abuse started.

“Whenever I talk about this period of my life, I try my best not to cry, but it just comes, especially when I remember the cigarette burns, and it’s something I am trying to erase,” she continued.

Though she declines to reveal the identity of her abuser, Kim lets on it was a close family member who would return home drunk and take it out on her physically. She also says the abuser was not her dad. 

She still has cigarette burn scars to show from the years of abuse.

When asked what caused this person to harm her in this way, Kim shares, "During [the abuser's] drunk moments, I was probably also very rebellious.”

Xiaxue retorts, “You were only six leh! And nothing warrants that sort of behaviour, especially from someone older and who should know better…”

Kim also shares that it took her a while to stabilise herself emotionally and that all these things have made her stronger, more mature.

She currently goes for therapy. “I still see a psychiatrist, but I think I just needed someone to talk to as I tend to keep everything in until things become bad and I become kee siao.

Kim also reveals that she always had a sort of hate inside of her though Xiaxue lets on that she could never see it. Instead, there have been many who want to take advantage of Kim's kindness.

“The Kim I know is full of love, like she always trusts people and I always tell her, “Can you have more discretion when you make friends?” says Xiaxue.

“As I grew older, my dad taught me how to let go of things and how to compartmentalise those that are not good for me,” she says.

“He will always say, 'Block this person and don’t keep thinking as there’s nothing you are going to achieve… and it’s only going to make you more miserable, and it’s not going to help you… and it isn’t useful, so for what you think?' So that has always stuck with me,” says Kim.

When prompted if her father ever knew about what was happening, Kim says her dad found out after a while.

“I would call him screaming for help when things escalated…”  

However, Kim says her dad could not do anything as he was not around and him making the decision to send her to London for boarding school at the age of 12 was the best he could do for her.

“I did ask him, “Pa, why I so young you shipped me away?” and he would say it’s for my own good and that I might not see it then, but when I got older, I would understand,” shares Kim.

When Xiaxue suggested that her father might have felt he could have done more to protect her, Kim says that could be why he never really spoke out when she acted up as a kid and was even supportive of her.

“Even when I became rebellious during my late primary school years, he never really blamed me then 'cos he understood and felt that I shouldn’t have gone through what I went through back then,” shares Kim.

She further adds that her father has apologised many times to her. She also feels sorry that her dad had to see her going through the years of abuse.

When asked about the status of the relationship with the abuser, Kim simply says she has forgiven [the abuser] and moved on though she doesn’t talk to the person.

“It does not affect me as it is too deep inside. Along with my divorce, whenever I think about it, I just start crying.”

Catch the first episode here or in the video below.

Photos: Xiaxue/YouTube, xiaxue/Instagram, kimlim/Instagram

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