Inequality of marriage should continue


Stanley Teo

Published: 9:35 PM, October 4, 2016

I refer to the letter “To champion equality is not about being pro-LGBT” (Sept 29, online). Marriage, as a union between one man and one woman, is an unequal institution to begin with; it prohibits homosexuality, incest, polygamy and polyandry.

Supporters of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) equality claim that love and commitment are all it takes for marriage. From this definition, it should apply to all forms of unions besides same-sex marriage.

In other words, supporters of LGBT equality cannot reject other forms of marriages, otherwise they are elevating LGBT rights above others. The LGBT community must make known its stance on incestuous and group marriages.

In the debate on marriage equality, reference to racial discrimination is not a fair comparison, as there is no concrete evidence that homosexuality, unlike race, is innate.

Dr Lisa Diamond, a lesbian and an American Psychological Association researcher, has said that the view of homosexuality and heterosexuality as rigid and unchangeable no longer applies and that LGBT activists should stop saying “born this way and can’t change”.

Interracial marriages celebrate and reinforce marriage, while same-sex marriages redefines it. To legalise same-sex marriage is to systematically and institutionally rob a child of either a father or mother, which is the structural injustice of marriage equality.

While same-sex marriage does not affect heterosexual marriages, it is detrimental to children, who are raised best by their biological parents. Policymakers must take children — society’s most vulnerable members — into consideration rather than fulfil the wants of gay adults.