Man jailed 3 years after trying to rape another man's spouse as part of ‘wife-sharing fantasy’

SINGAPORE — A man was sharing his sexual fantasies with a male colleague when he broached the idea of the colleague having sex with his wife. The colleague did not object and acted on the man’s suggestion.

However, the man’s wife did not give her consent to this.

On Thursday (Jan 13), the man’s colleague, now aged 47, was jailed for three years after he pleaded guilty to a single charge of abetment by conspiring with the victim’s husband in an attempt to rape the woman.

Another charge of outraging the modesty of the now 48-year-old victim was taken into consideration for the sentence.

None of the parties involved can be named to protect the identity of the victim.

The husband’s age was not stated in the court documents. However, the prosecutors said that he and the victim were married in 1994, have three children of school-going age. It was not stated if the victim is still married to the man. 

THE CASE

Deputy Public Prosecutors (DPPs) Chee Ee Ling and Ang Siok Chen said that around 2015, the husband talked about his sex life with his colleague, which included his wife-sharing fantasies where a husband would watch another man having sex with the wife.

After the colleague agreed to act out the fantasy, he was not told about whether the victim consented to the idea.

She had not.

About two years later, the husband invited the colleague over to his matrimonial home past midnight on Sept 1 in 2017 when the domestic worker, children and the wife were already asleep.

The prosecution said that the colleague was not aware that the husband had fed the wife alcohol and an unknown drug, purportedly a sex enhancement drug, in order to make her fall asleep.

When the colleague went into the bedroom, the victim was unconscious in bed, naked and blindfolded.

He then undressed himself and performed various sex acts on the victim. At one point, he tried to sexually penetrate the victim without a condom but could not get an erection, the prosecution said.

It was around this time that the victim started to regain consciousness and she realised that there was someone else in the room apart from her husband.

When the victim tried to remove her blindfold, the husband told the colleague to leave the house immediately.

It was not stated how the victim came to know that it was the colleague who tried to rape her, but she confronted the man and insisted that he, along with her husband, write a confession letter that detailed what had happened.

The colleague did so in a letter dated Sept 4, three days after the attempted rape.

It was not stated whether the victim made a police report, but it was the wife of a third man who did go to the police and this led to the arrests of the perpetrators.

This other woman found explicit photos of herself in her husband’s phone and suspected that “sexual offences” had been committed against her by her husband and other men, the prosecution said.

The police then established the identities of this third man’s accomplices, which included the husband of the first woman.

The colleague was arrested on Jan 10 last year after investigations linked him to the husband of the first woman.

The cases of the third man and his accomplices are still before the court.

‘WENT ALONG FOR THE RIDE’

The prosecution said that the colleague was not involved in the third man’s offences.

Still, DPP Chee described the case as an “appalling” one and it was fortunate that the victim had regained consciousness before the accused could complete raping her.

She added that there was a clear degree of premeditation since the two men had talked about the “devious plan” for about two years.

Moreover, the accused had a pivotal role in carrying out the husband’s “deviant sexual fantasy”.

Mr Nakoorsha Abdul Kadir, the lawyer for the accused, countered that it was not true that the two men had planned the offence for two years.

Rather, they were swopping “wife-sharing fantasies” with each other.

The husband had planned the entire encounter, while his colleague “went along for the ride”, he added.

In delivering his sentence, Justice Aedit Abdullah said that the offence had occurred within the “sanctity of the victim's home”, which should have been a safe space for her.

It also exposed the victim to the risk of sexual disease and pregnancy.

For his offence, the colleague could have been jailed for up to five years.